Life Is Full Of Choices

Life is full of choices.

Sometimes this can be as simple as what clothes we want to wear that day to what we want to eat.

However, we also can make bad choices as well.

Recently, I have been going through some personal stuff and it has not been the easiest to deal with.  I had been holding on to the anger, anxiety, and hurt.  This caused me to not be easy to be around.  I was withdrawing as well as on the verge of losing some great people in my life. Thats when my best friend came to me and told me that it is all about the choices we make.  I could sit there and be depressed and pissed off or I could make the choice to let it go and be happy.

I decided to do the latter and let it go and be happy.  Yes, I am still pissed off about certain situations but I am choosing to move on and not dwell on it.  If I have a moment where it does bother me, then I will be honest with it, voice it, then move on.

Has anyone else had issues with making the choice of holding on to bad emotions and letting them control your life?  If so, what did you do to let it go?

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22 thoughts on “Life Is Full Of Choices

  1. I held on to the negative emotions associate with my ex-husband cheating on me for years. I didn’t realize that it was a choice I was making. Just last September I started therapy for a new point of view. My husband now, has certainly made it a lot easier. He knew what he was getting himself into when he married me, but sometimes he is a lot more patient with me than I deserve.
    I breathe and I think about how my life is different now, my husband is different than my ex and doesn’t deserve the blame that I sometimes misplace on him due to my ex. So to answer you my husband and therapy have helped me let it go. Though it has been a VERY LONG process.

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  2. I use the same approach to toxic relationships that I did when I decided to quit using nicotine. (Both involve anger, discomfort, and feelings of helplessness.) Whenever I found myself thinking about/brooding on the negative feelings (or considering entering back into the relationship to dull the pain), I told myself to find something positive to get involved in. For me, that was almost always something physical: playing the piano (or recorder or trumpet or harmonica), going on a walk, exercising, scrubbing the kitchen floor or bathtub, walking the long way to the park with an old, familiar book or notebook and reading or writing about what I had seen along the way. (With or without a good cry, first, depending on whether I was sad or angry or just tense from the adrenaline.)

    It’s a matter of: I am not comfortable and I will not feel this way. What positive alternative do I have at this moment? I will engage in an activity that releases stress and in which I feel good about myself (or, if feeling good about myself isn’t an option, then ask myself what activity is positive and self-indulgent and follow through asap.)

    With the nicotine, for example, my response to the craving was “That’s not an option. What am I going to do instead?)

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  3. I too had a few issues which always used to make me angry/ frustrated but my husband helped me to get over them.. he said the same thing your friend mentioned to you – instead of letting those negative things control your mind and take over your happiness, it is better to leg go of them for your own good 🙂

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  4. Yes I have held on to past issues that caused me a lot of pain. It took me years to let go of stuff that happened to me when I was a child. I’ve been hurt and abused countless times in my life. I especially resented some of my so-called family members. One day I just said I needed to let it go because it was causing me too much pain and sickness. I’m not going to lie, I sometimes start thinking about it but it doesn’t happen as often as before. It’s OK to be angry and feel pain at times in life but try not to do it for a long time.

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  5. I have used different methods. When betrayed by a friend, it took a long time before I realised I was asking the wrong question. In my head I was saying, “how could she?” Trying to understand it. In the end, I realised the best form of revenge was happiness and that meant asking different questions and focusing on different things, like making my relationship with my lovely boyfriend work. Talking of which, what a nice best friend you have.

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